The life of a college girl.
Yuck, I forgot to take the Kit Kat bar out of my pocket.
Lael: "Mom, can you wash my white nursing jacket without turning it pink?"
Me: "I have a better shot at it than you do."
I survived another semester of clinical!
Arden: "Why do you have to take pictures of me when I just got done working out?"
Lael: "She likes action shots."
Me: "Thank you, Lael!"
Me: "But, Arden you're so cute. Arden please turn around."
1. Choose a Life PurposeIt is a choice and you get to make it. You have a free will, but an all-powerful, all-knowing, all-loving God gave it to you. So why not revolve your life purpose - not your choice of major, mind you, but something much more basic - around the One Who gave you life in the first place? Don't let one more episode of (insert your favorite reality TV program here) go by before you've nailed this down. Lock your door, get your Bible out, and search.
As a sophomore I came up with: To glorify God through knowing Him and making Him known to others." Not original, but it was mine. Having a God-centered life purpose gets you up in the morning, helps you make good decisions, and looks cool on your bathroom mirror.
2. Develop a Biblical WorldviewI'm reading an intriguing book by Chuck Colson called How Now Shall We Live? that's giving me a major paradigm shift. After taking two Tylenol, I admitted that I had a puny, self-centered worldview and forced myself to ask, "Am I looking at life from my perspective or from God's?"
When we saturate our minds with the Word, we develop a God-shaped grid to run every song, movie and idea through.
3. Seek Out the Right FriendsMy pastor says, "If you're trying to follow Christ, don't choose as your best friend someone who is running from Him." Studies show at least 50 percent of students have cheated and don't think it's wrong, almost one fourth are frequent binge drinkers, and cohabitation (us old timers call it "shackin' up') is at an all time high.
Be careful, getting tight with one of these folks could be more painful than watching an XFL football game on "ESPN Classic"! I'm not saying don't befriend non-Christians - that's the key to drawing them to Christ. But bind your heart to someone who is really seeking God: "As iron sharpens iron, so one man sharpens another." Touche!
4. Join a Good ChurchAway from home? No one to tell you to get up and go find one of those premium back-row seats at the fam's church? Now you can find out what you're really made of! Micro scooter yourself over to the late service of that local fellowship that:
- Teaches the Bible as the Word of God
- Has great worship
- Welcomes you and your friends
5. Form Consistent Study HabitsI'm a total hypocrite even mentioning this one because I don't think I cracked a book until midway through my junior year! Yeah, you can buy tests and papers via the Internet, and supposedly everybody does it, but why not keep your integrity intact? Besides, having a clear conscience and an educated mind is a powerful combination!
As I "matured" in college, I started going to every class, sitting in the front row, and finding the top student to study with. Stay focused and you'll get to be part of those 24 percent of U.S. citizens who possess a college degree. Be all you can be!
6. Initiate Personal MinistryTo balance out #5, I must say: Don't let your studies get in the way of your education! The biggest lesson you will learn at college is what God wants to do in your life - and through your life. Find a group that's trying to witness and disciple others. Pray about living on campus, starting or joining a small group Bible study, sharing your faith and seeing God change some lives for eternity.
If you really want to get radical, join the thousands of students who do short term summer mission trips. Look 'em up at www.ShortTermMissions.com.
7. Set up Dating StandardsFifty-seven percent of collegians claim they're "sexually active." Think this is just locker-room braggadocio? Think again. Many are looking for sex without strings and relationships without rings. Over 16 million people are downloading their love life via online dating services. That's more people than have ever even heard of Roy Orbison's song Only the Lonely.
Here is a profundity: You will marry someone that you date! Commit yourself to only date others who have the kind of goals, faith and character you want in a mate someday. Think I'm being picky? Exactly!
8. Maintain a Proper BalanceHarry Potter's Professor Dumbledore sheds this light: "It is our choices that show what we truly are, far more than our abilities." Whether you like Harry's series or not, the prof's got a point. College is all about choices. With suicide now the third-leading cause of death among college age young people, it's time to adopt the foursquare life that Jesus sought in Luke 2:52: "He increased in wisdom and stature, in favor with God and man."
WWJD? He chose not to sweat the small stuff, but instead to develop Himself mentally, physically, spiritually, and socially.
9. Appreciate Your Parents (Read that one again. Love, Mom)OK, so my wife put me up to this one. It is amazing, though, how much smarter your parents get once you leave for college! You begin remembering all their laborious lectures and suspect that maybe they did have a sliver of wisdom in those thick brains! And if you catch fire for Christ, don't make the mistake I did and go home and tell your parents they're going to hell. People most often become Christians through the witness of a family member. So call them. Visit them. Tell them you love and appreciate them; and if they oppose you getting branded with a "tribal art" tattoo - hear them out!
10. Keep Graduation in MindNearly one third of freshmen drop out of college their first year. Congrats if you are part of the remaining two thirds! Also, know that those with college degrees earn nearly twice as much as those without. But more important than a diploma or an extra zero on your paycheck is what kind of person you plan on being when you graduate.
My definition of college? A window of time God gives us to make critical decisions and prepare ourselves to live them out.
Set goals, seek the Lord, build a deep foundation and understand that the end of your college career says so much more about you than the beginning.
Oh, and have some fun, too!